Along with unfaithfulness, jealousy is one of the problems that can lead to painful breakups.

If you suffocate your partner and push him away with paranoid scenes of jealousy, easyarea.com now gives you advices on how to control jealousy and manage the problem.





           


- The beginning is to acknowledge that jealousy is a problem 

If you have the impression that everybody checks his boyfriend from 10 to 10 minutes via phone calls, instant messages and, afterwards, launches accusations, absolutely groundless or based on the scenes that you image, you are wrong.

The truth is, not everybody does it and, furthermore, it is not normal to make your partner feeling guilty anytime he speaks with an opposite sex other one or when he goes out without you.

You have to accept that you have a problem and you can start working on it.


- Change your point of view For start, in order to acknowledge better how things are, make a simple exercise:

Imagine how your partner feels when you're extremely jealous.

How it would work for you to receive messages in which you are constantly asked exactly where you are and what you do and if, in addition, he got really upset for not calling 1 hour to give him the report?

Try to walk in his shoes when you humiliate him in public by blaming him of smiling too much at someone.

If you can do this exercise and understand how he feels, than you can try to change your behavior and to trust him more.


- Break you loss of self-confidence 

In most of the cases, jealousy is the effect of a deep feeling of insecurity and self-confidence.

Make a list with your qualities and listen to your boyfriend on the same topic to see why he is happy with you.

Only after understanding these two things, you will get to understand that not everyone near him is a possible threat to you.


- Have faith in him and stop trying to control everything 

The jealous thinks that only as long as he controls the situation, the other one won't cheat.

Practically, he imagines that the other one wants to lie to him and cheat on him and, therefore, he must be stopped constantly.

The truth is that you have to work on solving this insecurity feeling and start believing in your boyfriend.  


In conclusion, jealousy is dangerous for any healthy relationship, in considerate amounts. Of course, in small amounts, it can spice things up, but, if you exaggerate, try to change before pushing your partner away! 




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